by Sgt. Nicole Hall
FORT BRAGG, N.C. — Taking the leap of faith into holy matrimony is not always as picture perfect as it seems on the big screen. In reality, deciding to marry someone means having to learn another human being, including the things you might not fully enjoy or understand. When serving in the military, nurturing a marriage can come with many unique challenges and ways to improve relationships, including the use of art.
After returning from a deployment, Spc. Timothy Dzubay, an armorer assigned to 3rd Special Forces Group, Fort Bragg and his wife Samantha, both of Lacey, Wash., realized they needed some assistance improving their communication. Although they were high school sweethearts and knew each other very well, the couple sought to improve their marriage early on, linking up with Dr. Jannetta Jordan, Phd., of Wallace, N.C.
“Art therapy is simply a different form of therapy where one can express what they desire to speak through visual art,” said Jordan, a Psychotherapist, owner of her own practice in Raeford, NC. “It is used in various therapeutic settings to attain breakthroughs as some situations may be too difficult to verbalize.”
The Dzubay’s met Jordan about six months ago, after a referral from Army Community Services. During their meetings, is where the couples’ talent was discovered. Timothy not only likes poetry, but loves to create his own poems. Samantha has always had an eye for illustration, loving to draw freehand, illustrating her husband’s thought-provoking poetry.
“I have seen many changes in my marriage and realized my wife’s view of communication is different than mine, said Timothy. “I have been learning more about the way she prefers to communicate.”
The couple say they are happy with the positive changes that have occurred in their marriage since beginning the use of art alongside marriage counseling.
“I definitely recommend art therapy to all couples seeking counseling,” said Samantha. “It has helped Timothy and I have conversations beyond the daily, surface-level subjects. We have gained a better understanding of each other.”
Often times there is a negative connotation associated with getting ‘counseling’.
Tim and Samantha say the choice to begin counseling was to prevent any possible issues before they actually happened.
“When I first met them, I saw two mature young people with extraordinary talents unaware of the great gifts they have,” said Jordan.
“We enjoy creating our art with Dr. Jordan, said the Dzubay’s. “She definitely pushes us to express ourselves and show our talent.”
“I’m so excited for their gifts, they have a bright future,” said Jordan. “This young and talented couple work together and this is what the marriage walk is all about.”